You have to be willing to initiate. To go first. To organize something. To invite people.
Your project or party or book club might not work but the only way to find out is to take the leap.
And even when it doesn’t work everyone is appreciative of the experience…appreciative of DOING something, not just talking about doing something.
And the appreciation that others have (even if it fails) makes it clear that the world needs people like you to go first. Your initiative generates their joy, gratitude, purposefulness, connection.
Being an initiator is a heavy lift but it’s worth it. And we need it.