When we don’t get the desired result it’s easy to think ‘what did I do wrong’.
On the other hand, when we do get the desired result it’s easy to think ‘I just need to keep doing exactly that’.
But here’s the thing…
sometimes you make a half-court shot blindfolded.
and
sometimes the table is off balance even though you followed the Wayfair instructions.
Focus on building a process that will take you where you want to go long term.
The interesting thing about the muddy message is that the clear message is in there somewhere…it’s just covered in mud.
In which case, it’s more about getting rid of the mud than it is about dreaming up what the message might be.
»» All the right frequencies were there all along…you just had to get rid of a bunch in order to make it pop.
If the rooftop bar is covered maybe it’s not really the rooftop bar.
If they stopped doing the seat belt demo on airplanes how long would it take for someone to ask how it works?
Everyone who cuts me off in traffic looks exactly like the type of person who would do that.
We know who our doctor friends are…no need to preface.
Cleaning the soap dispenser is one of the great ironies of the world.
A reputation of being late is a tough one to turn around and it doesn’t happen by getting better at having more convincing reasons.
Talking like you know what you don’t makes you look dumber than you think they are.
»» It’s been a while since the last Nightcap…but there are 28 that have preceded this one over the years. Just edit the number on the url.
The record label, the music supervisor, the booking agent, the playlist gate keeper.
If what they said they wanted was what they actually wanted this whole thing would be a lot easier.
But it isn’t. It must be decoded.
The artist is known for insecurities and fears…but all the rest of the other players in the biz have them too. So to cover them up we all say things we don’t really mean. We give reasons that aren’t real. We hedge the truth as to not appear weak.
I can’t help you decode your latest meeting but we can each decide to say more of what we really mean.
We all remember the teacher standing in front of the class doing the roll call. Reading off the last names. Here! The punk in the class saying ‘not here’ when called.
When we set out to do important work there’s a handful of voices who take their place in front of us.
“I don’t feel like doing this” Here!
“I’m an imposter” Here!
“I’m afraid” Here!
“They might laugh at me” Here!
“This might kill me” Here!
“I”m no good” Here!
“I’m going to do it anyway” Here!
“One foot in front of the other” Here!
“It won’t be so bad” Here!
“I’ve succeeded in something like this before” Here!
“Here we go let’s do this” Here!
Ok cool, all the usual are here
And these voices rarely miss a session.
Now that all are accounted for and we know they’re all going to keep showing up, we get to decide which ones we call on throughout the class.