That’s what we often think when someone gives us a compliment…’you’re just saying that to make me feel good because you don’t want to hurt my feelings with what you really think…because what you really think is that it’s not that great’.
And the truth is…sometimes they are just saying they like it in order to make you feel good.
But it’s hard to tell. Not everyone is lying.
So there’s the rub.
You can spend time and energy deciphering who is telling the truth and who isn’t…and then once you’ve deciphered, you can spend time and energy dwelling on the ones who don’t actually like it.
Or you can take heart in the fact that some people (probably most people) are telling the truth…and that the voice in your head saying ‘you’re just saying that’ is actually your own voice just trying to sabotage a good thing.
