Somehow the idea of “I’m just not taking it too seriously” caught on and spread like wildfire. It’s a staple in our conversations.
It’s viewed as this achievement, like I need to run after it as a goal, everyday.
But “not taking it too seriously” is usually just used a back door to not be held accountable for the purpose or outcome of whatever you’re doing.
If I tell you that I don’t take playing the bass too seriously, I instantly avoid your criticism and judgement. Because who cares. I don’t care, so it’s whatever. Congrats on criticizing bass notes that are just off the cuff nonsense. I don’t stand behind it, so you’re welcome to push it over.
It’s so stylish to be laid back.
It’s much more vulnerable (and few people equate vulnerability to stylish) to tell you that I do take playing the bass seriously. It means I have to stand up for it in the face of judgement. I have to be willing to say I put my best foot forward, tried as hard as I could, slaved over it and that it still might not be good enough for some people.
Admitting to yourself and others that you are taking something seriously means you’re about to find out if you have what it takes.
The watchful eyes are coming, subtle or not so subtle condescension and people will definitely be talking about you behind your back.
You can wander into failure and even mediocrity, but success requires clenched teeth and a piercing eye.
